How to Prepare Kids for a Photo Session (Without Bribing Them With Lollies)

Let’s be real. Getting ready for a family photo session can feel a little… chaotic.

You’ve managed to get everyone into half-decent clothes, someone’s probably missing a shoe and now you’re crossing your fingers that the kids cooperate for just 20 minutes.

Sound familiar?

As a family photographer (and a mum), I get it. So here’s the good news: you don’t need to bribe your kids with lollies or promise a trip to Macca’s just to get through your session. Let’s talk about how to actually prepare your kids - and set everyone up for success.

1. Lower your expectations - in the best way

This might sound counterintuitive, but hear me out. The goal isn’t to have everyone sitting perfectly, smiling straight at the camera. The goal is to capture connection. Real life. Playfulness. Joy. So let your kids be themselves. Wiggly, loud, cheeky - that’s part of your family story. And that’s what makes your photos magic.

2. Tell them what to expect (in their language)

Kids do better when they know what’s happening. Keep it simple and light: “We’re going to meet Linda, and she’s going to take some fun photos of us playing together.” Avoid putting pressure on them to “smile nicely” or “be good.” Let’s make it about fun, not performance.

3. Feed them first. Always.

Hungry kids = grumpy kids (and to be honest, same goes for adults). Make sure everyone’s had a proper snack before the session. Something filling, but not messy (maybe skip the tomato pasta).

4. Dress for comfort (and quick changes)

Yes, you want everyone to look nice - but comfort wins. Avoid anything itchy, stiff, or brand new if they’ve never worn it before. And maybe keep a spare outfit on hand. Just in case someone finds a puddle 2 minutes in.

5. Bring a comfort item (and don’t worry if it sneaks into the photos)

If your child has a beloved teddy or blankie, bring it. It can help them settle - and honestly, having those familiar little details in your photos? Priceless.

6. Trust me to guide the session

I don’t expect your kids to sit still and smile. I want them to move, laugh, explore. I’ll guide gently through play and prompts - games, running, piggybacks, cuddles - things that bring out natural connection. All you have to do is show up and be present.

7. Let go of perfection

If someone melts down, we pause. If someone’s shy, we take our time. The best photos often happen when things don’t go to plan. So please don’t stress - I’ve seen it all (including toddlers throwing sand at my camera and dads hiding behind trees). It’s all part of it.

Family sessions aren’t about being perfect. They’re about capturing what your love looks like, right now. Messy, loud, funny, tender - all of it. So come as you are. I’ll take care of the rest.

Thinking about booking a family session? I’d love to capture your wild and wonderful crew.